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Individual Therapy for
Relationship Issues
Are you stuck in Relationship Groundhog Day?
Hi, my name is Kaylin and I’m an individual therapist for relationship issues
You may be feeling stuck, hopeless, and frustrated when it comes to your dating or relationship life. I understand, and I’m here to help.
I help driven millennial women break the cycle of attracting and dating the wrong partners so they can develop healthy and fulfilling relationships.
If you’re ready to start dating and relating better, schedule a complimentary consultation with me today.
My approach to individual therapy for relationship issues
Real talk:
If you’re still dating the same type of person over and over even after you’ve crashed and burned too many times to count, it’s not because you are “just attracted to assholes” or you get bored too easily.
It’s because you haven’t explored your own patterns or relating and how to break through holding yourself back.
We learn how to relate to others in our very earliest years- sometimes we hold on to lessons that we don’t even remember learning.
These “lessons” or patterns show up in our adult life in the way we communicate and relate to others. For example, if you find yourself getting bored after the 3rd or 4th date, it probably isn’t because your standards are too high - it’s likely because you become disengaged as soon as things start to get too vulnerable and you feel exposed.
You might have learned early on that when things get real, you get hurt.
This all happens on a subconscious level- and that's where I come in.
My job is to help you discover and analyze those patterns that are holding you back from the deep, loving relationship that you want and deserve.
My approach to individual therapy for relationship issues is to help you get to the core of these patterns and behaviors, so that we can look at what isn’t working for you. You get to decide what you want in a relationship and I will teach you how to communicate your desires to your partner (or potential partner) so that you can get your needs met.
Just Imagine:
Instead of losing interest or getting bored after the 4th date, you actually start to feel seen and appreciated by your person. They see your darkest parts and they hold you through the painful times. You feel safe in letting yourself be taken care of and you finally get to loosen your grip on needing to control everything around you.
Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues FAQs
How do I get started with individual therapy for relationship issues?
If you are ready to get started, congratulations! This is a wonderful first step in your healing and that is not always easy. Fill out the contact form below, and we will have a short 10 minute call to go over logistics and to make sure we are a good fit to work together. This is where you can ask me any other questions that are specific to you and your experience. After that, we will schedule our first 50 minute session together, I will email you the paperwork to fill out before our appointment. I have a paperless practice so everything will be kept secure in my online portal. If you have more questions about what it is like to work with me, check out my blog post, here.
What is individual therapy for relationship issues?
Individual therapy for relationship issues is an exploration of your patterns and the ways you show up in relationships. Individual therapy for relationship issues will help you to determine how you want to show up differently. We will look at patterns and similarities in who you are choosing as partners, and get to the root cause or “lessons” that make you choose the way you do. Individual therapy for relationship issues is a way to make sure that you are showing up as the best version of yourself, so that you can attract the best partner for you and always be able to ask for - and receive- the love that you desire and deserve.
Does individual therapy for relationship issues help me find a partner?
Yes and no. Individual therapy for relationship issues is not a dating service. I am happy to discuss potential dates and partners, and help guide you through any difficult or confusing conversations that occur in dating. We will mostly focus on you and your needs, so that you can feel empowered to pick the best partner for yourself.
How do I know that you are the right individual therapist for my relationship issues?
There are many different approaches to therapy. I have found that by helping my clients learn to observe their thoughts without judgment and to stay in the present moment, that they experience changes within a few weeks. My goal is to create a safe environment where you will feel empowered to tell me anything that comes up- even the ugly, messy parts. By confronting these parts, we are working together to find self acceptance. When you are able to accept yourself as you are, you tend to stop worrying so much about others. As Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change.”
Get help from individual therapy for relationship issues
Remember: You don’t need to settle or lower your standards just to keep a relationship going. Because creating a deep and fulfilling relationship is not about changing who you are.
It’s about getting really clear on what you want and need in your relationships, and asking for it with confidence.
Click below to schedule your free consultation.